Mom Jeans and Nasty Gal

I dress for myself and if you aren’t you are missing out. Savour the bridesmaid’s dress /uniform etc that has to be worn. After that, there is really no excuse. Being comfortable in what you are wearing will make you more confident. I love dressing in what I like, over what I should wear.
‘I don’t think you should wear that’ translates to me ‘you should wear that right now, go change’.
I love tucking t-shirts into jeans, my body shape traditionally would have meant that I should try and conceal my bod at all times. F’ that!! I love this Nasty Gal shirt and wanted to show off my jeans, so tucked in it is. I feel confident and am living for it. ( anyone else watching RuPaul season 9?)

I wore

T-shirt – Nasty Gal | Jeans – Primark | Jacket –LOTD | Shoes – New Look | bag – Fiorelli 

Comparing, Compromise and Confidence

A post in the parts

Compare – ‘to examine two objects in order to note similarities and differences’.
Is it natural to compare myself to others constantly? Noticing where my friends succeed in comparison to my failers? The continuous notion of feeling a lesser version of myself based on an outward portrayal of others. This is easily manifested in social media. Watching people I digitally admire galavant around the world through my phone screen. Does this enrich my life or more importantly my personal well being?
In so few a words. Yes.

Knowing where I sit in the world is comforting, comparing yourself, if done right, motivates me to achieve and succeed. Does it matter that my friends have finished university at 22 and I still have a year left at 24? No. It matters that I am at university doing what I love and we are in the same position of working out where we stand in the world together.
Comparing yourself to be like someone else is a waste of time. You will never be that person. So don’t waste your time trying to be. Be inspired or motivated by your comparisons, but be who you are. Find your interests and use them to your advantage. In primary school, I used to get bullied for wearing clothes I loved. I questioned my choices and actions and tried to fit in with the ‘popular people’. Even after these modifications, I was still me but in the wrong body. I wanted to wear my favourite clothes but wore what everyone else had, and was still picked this time for trying to fit in. I learnt from my mum that if you can’t join them beat them. I wore exactly what I wanted and stopped comparing myself to people who aren’t my peers.
I compare.

Compromise.
Compromise – ‘acceptance of standards that are lower than is desirable’.
I hold myself to the highest standards, on purpose because I know my capabilities. I’ve always known what I’ve wanted and stuck up for it. I don’t compromise, my personal feelings or my outward emotions. If I’m pissed off, you’ll know.
that saying ‘If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all’. Is total rubbish, if you’ve been hurt, pissed off, or mad as hell, let it be known. Shout from the roof tops. My voice won’t be quashed by being polite, I won’t compromise for the benefit of not hurting you when you have hurt me.
I won’t compromise.

Confidence
‘the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something’.
Having confidence within in yourself comes with time, I’ve learnt that the hard way. I was never confident in my capabilities, knowledge, personality, any part of my life. I was a shell of who I was meant to be. That awkward teen stage hit me hard. I retreated within myself. I felt like everyone was so together and charming, yet I couldn’t string a sentence together in front of a stranger. Then I got my first job, working in a clothing shop and earning some pocket money gave me freedom and confidence to do things I’d have never done before. The unattainable was now within grasp. A Lulu Guinness bag I had wanted for months was my first purchase when I got paid, it cleared my account but it didn’t matter. I had this bag and nothing could stop me. The bag was symbolic of my arrival into myself. My confidence came from a purchase that meant something to me and it just went from there. I tried new things and sucked at most of them, then tried more, made friends had adventures. not I can crack jokes and be charming in front of strangers and not care.
I am confident.

I WORE

Dress- Miss Suki | Jeans – Primark | Shoes – Dr Martens | Bag – Stella McCartney | Earrings – ( old sorry) sunglasses – Forever21 (old)

60’s Summer Dress

If only this was my bike and I could have ridden around all day with Hayden not having a care in the world. Instead, we explored by foot.

I’m trying out headscarves at the moment, what do you think? Are they past it? As a teen, I used to always wear something in my hair and have since lost the skill.

Dress – Vintage ( there are dresses on Etsy, from Lazarus) | head scarf – vintage | trainers – Converse* | Bag – Fiorucci | Earrings – Tommy Hilfiger

Monochrome Summer Style

black in summer is so underrated. Black pieces against pale skin or a more glowing complexion black can take any look form a 5 to and 8 instantly. black dresses are timeless and chic and perfect for running around town in or sitting in a beer garden soaking up the sun. This little one I’ve had for years and has never failed me. The underskirt needs a little attention but it’s so flattering and the perfect length to tan my pins. Worn with the perfect ‘business’ jacket from LOTD and white trainers with contrasting laces.

I wore

dress- Similar, Similar | jacket – LOTD | Trainers – Converse* | Sunglasses – Boohoo

Vintage Ralph Lauren

 

I wouldn’t say I was a vintage expert, but I do know a thing or two about bargain hunting. My most recent bargain is this vintage Ralph Lauren mens shirt. I love over sized shirts and spotted this one a mile off. If you saw on my Insta stories you’d have seen me trying out how to wear it. The prep look is something I can easily pull together with a subtle jumper over a shirt. As soon as the sun is out you can best believe that this shirt will be worn with shorts and sunglasses. Sat on a beach somewhere, hopefully with a drink in my hand.

Shot in a blue bell wood – Pamphill

Photo cred – Hayden

I wore

Jeans- Primark | Shirt – Ralph Lauren (vintage) | Jumper – And Other Stories | Shoes – Converse* ( via Footway)

Dare To Mask with The Body Shop

I’ve been using products from The Body Shop for years, quite possibly they were the first skin care brand I bought from. So when The Body Shop Southampton hosted a blogger event I had to be there.

The event was in celebration of their new mask range with the hashtag “daretomask” Myself and all the other bloggers got to listen to a skincare expert talk about the new mask range and to take a look at the new more premium collection ( we got to take a few things home which is so exciting) The Body Shop highlighted all the good they are doing with stopping animal testing and creating more sustainable products. 

The himalayan charcoal range of products is supporting the endangered red panda. The Body Shop have consistently worked to protect our most endangered animals and the welfare of all animals. What’s even more exciting is that TBS are even working to sustain endangered plants. Their premium scent collection works with some of the most endangered plants that are used for perfumes all over the world. Normally you’d cut the plant and use it in perfume. Not The Body Shop have cover the plant and extract the smell is naturally releases and uses that in their premium perfume range. Not harming the plant at all.

What’s really refreshing about TBS is their continuos hard work in sustaining animal and plant habitats. They recently built bio-bridges and help discover a new bread of Orangutang. If you don’t know me personally then you don’t know I LOVE orangutang and really want to work on a sanctuary for a few months just helping out, helping save those big orange guys. TBS created Reggie a shower and bath luffa to raise awareness for the new orangutang which is such a worthy purchase.
I was given the strawberry shower gel as part of a set for christmas and i used it every day. It smells good enough to eat and the scent lingers on your skin. I’m so glad to have a mini one  in my possession. The balkan Juniper Body Wash is such a decadent smell that I’m waiting till have had a day off and am going to spend my time in the shower breathing this in and watching my skin get all soft. This on this product as the best five star hotel you’ll ever stay in.
The oils of life cleanser is a daily god send. I lightly exfoliate my face every day and follow with the cleanser and my skin looks so youthful, and bright.
I was given these items in a goodie bag to say thanks for coming and try out or products and see what you think. But because I love TBS and value them as creatives and innovators in the skincare world by going animal testing free. They are also expanding their vegan range. I got a little spendy and bought myself a few extras.
Oils of Life – A pea sized amount covers the face perfectly. The cleanser goes on line a think serum but washes off like water.
Moisturiser- Because that spring sun ain’t no joke, I don’t wanna crisp up at 24 thanks. It’s really tackled my rose cheeks and brought down the tension in my face.
Head bands red panda and bunny:  Putting on my makeup has never been so fun. I’m a bunny fanatic, Hayden can testify to this. If you aren’t already follow Reuben the rex on insta if you love bunnies. He’s adorable and I want to meet him. And the expand and give more to the red panda cause i got that head band too.
Face brush – Going into summer means my skin will suffer in makeup all day but not with this bad boy. A tiny little brush perfect to get the last of the day off.
Himalayan charcoal soap – again i just have to support the red panda and I’m really on the charcoal hype, what can i say.
 Pyjamas – Next  
from the boxing day sales, but Next have possibly the best PJ collection ever.
Let me know what your favourite Body Shop pieces are and i’ll be sure to give them a go.
Thank you to @quaytobeauty on Instagram for inviting me and the Southampton Bloggers.

Tea Dress and Blazer

Off out to dinner with the girls for one of my best friends birthday dinner. I never get the opportunity to get dressed up, I’m normally sat on the train doing work to and from university, in the comfiest clothes I can find.

I wore

Dress – Vintage

Jacket* – LOTD.com (now in the sale)

 Heels – Henry Holland (similar here, here)

Lipstick – Topshop Beguiled 

Sunglasses – Romwe

High-low Day to Night

Frolicking in a field v.s. freezing in the snow. I wanted to shoot this top for so long. I took it to Paris but never wore it. So in a free moment with Hayden we went and shot in a field somewhere. Then it snowed and I couldn’t pass up the chance to wear it in the snow.

How to wear an evening look during the day.

The easiest way to wear an evening look during the day is trainers. Simple mono chrome, tonal trainers/sneakers. Mine are Converse* from Footway, They have faired so well and look amazing still and are the easiest shoes to clean. And nude lips as soon as you whack a lip on it’s a completely different look.

Just by adding come key elements you can change the look completely. Add a luxurious coat. Thins heavily one is a vintage inspired one from M&S and is so versatile. It’s not a classic trench but more a 70’s hair band style coat.

Accessories to add to make this look an evening looks is a small handbag. This Folli Follie one is perfect, fits just the essentials and adds that pop of colour. Purple is a big colour this season. Jewellery is always a safer bet in the evening. Go for gold for a classic look or silver to be more modern.

I wore

Jeans – Primark

Top – Stella Morgan comes in white, black and red.

Coat – M&S alternative

boots – New Look

Converse* – Footway

Bag – Folli Follie

Earrings – Similar

Sunglasses – Primark

Topshop in Paris

Forever trying to get that shot. This pillar was so high but looks so small. I was so nervous, thinking I’d end up in french A&E from falling off it. So ridiculous I was shaking like a leaf.

A love poem to my new coat…

It’s long, it’s blue I wore it to the lo(uvre) …?

I am obsessed with this coat. Full credit to my friend Marshaine for showing it to me because I love it so much. I needed a new coat to replace my red one (which is falling apart) and I can’t get enough of it. The coat reaches my knees which is such a comfort for me because I am so tall and over sized things just look average on me. The high pockets, lets talk about the pockets. They just under the boob area, also knows as the waist. Giving the coat some shape and to not make it look like i’m wearing a sack.

Hair in a low bun because that Parisian wind in no joke. Later in the day we went up the Arch de Triumphe and my hair was all over the place so a chic low bun was the only option.

I WORE

Coat – Topshop

Jeans – Primark

Shoes – Converse*

Bag – Calvin Klein ( Vintage)

Photos take by Hayden at the Palais Royal

Tartan Dress in Palais Royal

Tartan dress in Palais Royal

I’ve seen so many bloggers here and just didn’t think we’d have time to go here. I wanted those blogger photos so much. I saw that we could cut through to get to our destination one day and found this place. I loved it so much we came back more then once. Make it your mission to go here.

The tartan dress in a Zara piece which I’ve been waiting to wear as such for a few weeks. I’ve worn it with jeans but never as a dress. I think from now in it’s just going to be a dress. I felt super chic with the asymmetric hem and cuffed sleeves.

I wore

Dress- Zara ( it’s on trend )

Shoes – Converse* via Footway

Photos taken by Hayden at the Palais Royal