The fear of missing out is a huge part of what blogging has become over the last few years. If you aren’t at this event or party or working with that brand EVERYONE is working with. Your fear of missing out becomes a fear of not being relevant or worthy of your space on the internet. I know I’ve felt this in the past, not being invited to events other bloggers did. Watching all the stories and reading all the blog posts about how darling the event was, just tastes like sour grapes. Recently I’ve shifted my thinking pattern over from FOMO ( fear of missing out) to JOMO (joy of missing out)
Being able to carve out your own piece on the internet for you. You soon forget about that party everyone and their dog went to because you are having the best time doing your own thing. When you do get invited to events you are more appreciative and not bloody thirsty about the exposure or amount of content you need to create. You spend time talking to your fellow bloggers and make new internet friends. You move away from being stuck in the corner not talking to everyone, worrying if you are having a good time or not.
You begin to understand that you validate yourself and your decisions, not anyone else.
Hayden and I took a trip over to Lyme Regis and spent time walking around the sea walls, eating pasties and fudge. Knowing that I didn’t have to present myself and sell myself, for want of a better word was relaxing. I was able to appreciate where I was. It didn’t matter that other bloggers were doing this or that. I was with Hayden having a little day date.
I encourage you to step away from the FOMO ethos of blogging and relax in the moment. Appreciate the life you live away from the internet, take a few photos for the gram (obviously) but don’t make it the reason for the trip. Celebrate the pleasure of your JOMO.
Who’s been all over Fashion Month? I have, I’ve lived through everyone’s Instagram feeds and lusted after so many pieces my eyes could water. I’ve seen a running theme creep though the runways this September. The scaling of print sizes. Small intricate polka dots against huge polka dots, delicate pinstripes against ribbon sized paneling. I’ve chosen the style these old Primark bag waist trousers with my new H&M jacket to play with the scaling of the checked patterning. Popping in colourful statements to elevate the look. A watermelon coloured velvet headband and a turquoise bucket bag.