Comparing, Compromise and Confidence

A post in the parts

Compare – ‘to examine two objects in order to note similarities and differences’.
Is it natural to compare myself to others constantly? Noticing where my friends succeed in comparison to my failers? The continuous notion of feeling a lesser version of myself based on an outward portrayal of others. This is easily manifested in social media. Watching people I digitally admire galavant around the world through my phone screen. Does this enrich my life or more importantly my personal well being?
In so few a words. Yes.

Knowing where I sit in the world is comforting, comparing yourself, if done right, motivates me to achieve and succeed. Does it matter that my friends have finished university at 22 and I still have a year left at 24? No. It matters that I am at university doing what I love and we are in the same position of working out where we stand in the world together.
Comparing yourself to be like someone else is a waste of time. You will never be that person. So don’t waste your time trying to be. Be inspired or motivated by your comparisons, but be who you are. Find your interests and use them to your advantage. In primary school, I used to get bullied for wearing clothes I loved. I questioned my choices and actions and tried to fit in with the ‘popular people’. Even after these modifications, I was still me but in the wrong body. I wanted to wear my favourite clothes but wore what everyone else had, and was still picked this time for trying to fit in. I learnt from my mum that if you can’t join them beat them. I wore exactly what I wanted and stopped comparing myself to people who aren’t my peers.
I compare.

Compromise.
Compromise – ‘acceptance of standards that are lower than is desirable’.
I hold myself to the highest standards, on purpose because I know my capabilities. I’ve always known what I’ve wanted and stuck up for it. I don’t compromise, my personal feelings or my outward emotions. If I’m pissed off, you’ll know.
that saying ‘If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all’. Is total rubbish, if you’ve been hurt, pissed off, or mad as hell, let it be known. Shout from the roof tops. My voice won’t be quashed by being polite, I won’t compromise for the benefit of not hurting you when you have hurt me.
I won’t compromise.

Confidence
‘the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something’.
Having confidence within in yourself comes with time, I’ve learnt that the hard way. I was never confident in my capabilities, knowledge, personality, any part of my life. I was a shell of who I was meant to be. That awkward teen stage hit me hard. I retreated within myself. I felt like everyone was so together and charming, yet I couldn’t string a sentence together in front of a stranger. Then I got my first job, working in a clothing shop and earning some pocket money gave me freedom and confidence to do things I’d have never done before. The unattainable was now within grasp. A Lulu Guinness bag I had wanted for months was my first purchase when I got paid, it cleared my account but it didn’t matter. I had this bag and nothing could stop me. The bag was symbolic of my arrival into myself. My confidence came from a purchase that meant something to me and it just went from there. I tried new things and sucked at most of them, then tried more, made friends had adventures. not I can crack jokes and be charming in front of strangers and not care.
I am confident.

I WORE

Dress- Miss Suki | Jeans – Primark | Shoes – Dr Martens | Bag – Stella McCartney | Earrings – ( old sorry) sunglasses – Forever21 (old)

Ralph Lauren Mens Shirt

Tailored items are a winner when it comes to pulling an outfit together. The age old, ‘throw a blazer on’ has been all over the internet and fashion realms. Tailoring is great to give your silhouette definition.  A piece that’s sometimes over looked is the shirt. More importantly the mens shirt worn on a more feminine frame.

European styling at it’s finest. An Italian tan leather jacket off set by some light blue mom jeans,  and classic leopard print block heels.

Leather Jacket- vintage | Jeans – Primark | shoes – next | mens shirt – Ralph Lauren | Sunglasses – Boohoo| Necklace – Lovisa

 

 

Kate Spade in Paris

Just arrived back from Paris and couldn’t wait to show you all the photos I took. This is the look I wore to Premiere Vision on Thursday. I spilt breakfast down my shirt 10 mins after putting it on, what are you going to do?

I wanted to dress smart because it was my professional day going to Premiere Vision so I picked a monochrome look and this Top Shop coat for the pop of colour and excitement. Hair was in Plaits because Paris was so windy and it was much easier to just tie it up. Tie the plaits together for a twist on the classic look.

There will be more Paris posts coming your way soon, so hold on for them. I can’t wait to go back. Hayden and I are thinking in Summer and go to Versailles too.

I WORE

Shirt – Kate Spade

Jeans – Primark

Coat – Topshop

Trainers – Converse*

Back – Calvin Klein

Necklace – Gift from Hayden

Photos taken by Hayden outside of L’Escargot

Feminine White Shirt

It’s almost spring and I’m so excited to wear cotton dresses and feel the sun on my skin. Fingers crossed for a few trips away in the sun. The sun finally came out for a few moments and I couldn’t wast the opportunity of wearing the best buy of 2018 so far. Broome Street peplum shirt from Kate Spade is heaven. I’ve been on the hunt for months for a crisp white shirt and found exactly what I was looking for at Bicester Village. If you’ve not been, really do go. The is a plethora of shops for you to take advantage of.

Jeans – Primark | Jacket – Vintage | Shoes – Next | Bag – Stella McCartney | Shirt – Broome Street Kate Spade | Earrings – Lovisa | Necklace – Lovisa | Sunglasses – Primark

Thank you

The Curly Haired Girl

Star Print in Victoria Street | Edinburgh

Victoria street is one of the places in Edinburgh we kept going back to. There are thousands of streets but this one was a little more magical and vibrant and had so many things to see. Apparently it’s the street that inspired Diagon Alley. How flipping cool, we also went to The Elephant House cafe where J K Rowling started to write Harry Potter. We didn’t pick Edinburgh for it’s connection to Harry Potter but loved seeing all the inspirations.Maison Bleue  at night.

We stopped into Maison Bleue in the evening for mulled wine and a mince pie.

 We stopped into The Red Door Gallery and picked some prints to hang when we move in together. I really loved that shop, there were so many prints that I wanted. We chose from Mr Peebles and And Smile and a little Edinburgh postcard to go with our Cornwall one.

At the bottom of Victoria Street you’ll find Hula. A perfectly decorated cafe with a huge healthy menu with lost of GF, vegan and veggie options. We never went past when we were in need of food but went in for a smoothie and a cold brew.

The Chia Fields smoothie for me and a cold brew for him.

I wore

Star shirt – TK-Maxx

Turtle neck – H&M

Jeans – Primark

Coat – Long Tall Sally

Gloves – Accessorize

Bag – Carara Designs on Etsy

Boots – Deichmann

Monkey Print Shirt

Celine debuted a pair of silk trousers with a monkey pattern on them at their AW/17 runway show. They are total heaven and couldn’t get the print out if my head. H&M have reinterpreted the pattern and created a shirt dress ( pictured) and a skirt. H&M added adorable crowns to some of the monkeys. They remind me of Hanuman. Anyone else a real R.E buff at school?

It’s really starting to feel like Autumn, which means I can wear more earthy warm tones. My tan vintage leather jacket paired with my dark brown Osprey are perfect tones to work with the pattern of the blouse ( dress). The pussy bow collar is usually such a frumpy look but paired with a denim mini skirt makes the whole look a little less granny chic and more 70’s hun.

i wore

jacket – vintage ( alternatives here), dress (worn as blouse) – H&M, skirt -Next, boots – Just Fab, Hand bag – Osprey, earrings – H&M

and the trousers that sparked my obsession Celine 

Dorset Wine Festival

 

Dorset Wine Festival – 10 Castle Street

This is the first wine festival that Dorset have done and I was so happy to be able to witness it first hand. You pay your £36 ticket fee. ’35 quid!’ i hear you cry, yes but you get to drink pretty much as much wine as you can. I found a cheeky little discount code and took full advantage of it, because I am a student.

I’ll be the first to say know nothing about wine. Apart from I like reds more then white and sparking, but couldn’t tell you what regions I prefer of what grape is best.

We were given little glasses to try samples and a que card to take notes and to use our drink tokens. Ever the good student, I took notes but they got more incoherent as the day progressed.

We were in the grounds of 10 Castle Street which is a members only hotel, restaurant, bar but you can be a guest. I’ve wanted to see 10 Castle for about a year and only got a glimpse of the entry hall and bar, which were both perfectly decorated, but I would have loved to have been shown around.

Little marquees and spittoons were set up either side of the water feature, with all the wine vendors sheltering from the sun in the marquees. We started on the wine sparking side of the lawn. We sampled a German white from Philip Lang, and progressed down the Ardor. We got chatting to the merchant who chatted about how Ardor was made, the process of labelling the bottles the very impressive stand they were serving from. Ardor is the wine made from the same people who run The Larderhouse which is a restaurant in East Dorset with a unique bar. Which I really want to go to and will be going with H soon.

We explored the whole festival and found the Mother Ukers performing and the marquee where wine talks were going on, art sections to design the new label for 10 Castle Streets wine.

Having ticked off a few wine tokens we headed to the far field for some fuel. We chose the  Growler food truck and got sweet potato fries which were delicious. I went for mayo and H had ketchup.

After refuelling we headed back for more wine tasting. One of the stands was a lady talking about needing all your senses working to really appreciate wine. We were given nose clips to show how effected you can be by not having a sense working while tasting things. You can actually go on courses about wine tasting which is something I’d really love to do. To actually be able to talk about wine rather then saying it tastes delicious. We were told that if you eat the right food you can really have which ever wine you like, you just have to know what it goes will with.

We caught the last section of the South African talk about wine. Their vineyards are in Franschhoek where they talked about rain fall, struggles of growing a vineyard. Holden Manz had a merlot which was one of my favourites of the whole day. Here we are with 2 of the 3 People from South African wineries.

We worked our way around to a very friendly guy who told us that there was a wine he had called Bonkers, which we of course tried and loved. Everything he recommended we loved and he’d only tried everything that day. I felt really on the same page with him yet he knew what he was talking about.

I really hope that they host the Dorset Wine Festival again because it was really interesting learning about wine, I feel like I know a bit more then i did at the start. Next time I’d like to book lunch.

I hope this inspired you to come to the next wine festival, I’ll surely be going again.

 

Winter Skincare | Hands

Hands are so important and I think one of the most missed parts of the body when it comes to taking care of them. We are all told that it’s important to moisturise your face, so you look younger for longer. But hands are neglected and they are one of the places I think ages us the most.

As we head into winter our hands are taking the toll. Here are my favourite hand care products to keep your hands looking youthful and moisturised in Autumn and Winter. Don’t forget to wear your gloves too.

Cath Kidston – A mini trio of floral scented hand creams. Each sent transports you to a stately home somewhere. A scented hand cream instead of perfume? people complimented me on my perfume and i’ve had to tell them it’s actually my hand cream. They are perfect handbag emergency hand creams.

Cath Kidston

Geranium is my favourite scent.

I’ve the worst nails so I use Burt’s Bees cuticle cream to protect my nails as much as possible from breaking. I massage my nails with this lemon butter after using hand cream and feel very protected. I don’t feel like i’ll be getting and ripped cuticles or sore skin. Also smells amazing and comes in gift sets all the time.

Burt’s Bees

Burt’s Bees almond Milk and Beeswax hand cream is a very thick and sticky cream that needs a little working into the skin, but sinks in and moisturises deeply. It’s a very traditional smell, you smell the almonds and the honey and that’s it.

Something a little fancier for your paws is the Elemis British Botanicals hand and nail butter. Just listen to the list of ingredients. Wild flax, sweet orange, lavender, oats, patchouli, rosemary, burdock, geranium, thyme, camomile. That’s not even the whole list. It’s a beautiful concoction of scents and is such a light butter that it could be used all over the body.

Elemis

The heavy lifting hand cream comes from Elizabeth Arden.

This will sooth your winter skin ailments and leave you feeling like you’ve shed your skin and am fresh and clean. A thick gloopy cream from the Eight Hour collection, that you have to really work into the skin and leaves your hands sticky for ages. Which makes you stop what you are doing and really massage your skin. A little me time while taking care of your hands.

Elizabeth Arden

What are your must have hand care staples during Autumn and Winter?

Wedding Guest – Culotte Jumpsuit

I spent the weekend in St Albans for my cousins wedding.

My cousin studied fashion at university so I knew her wedding would be beautiful, and it really exceeded my expectations. I wanted to wear something beautiful too, but couldn’t find anything until the last minute. This next culotte jumpsuit is everything I wanted from a wedding guest outfit. Fitted around the waist, loose in the leg to really show of curves.

Accessorised with a few heavy pieces to keep the balance. A woollen trench coat to balance the nude heels and a black Stella McCartney clutch.

I wore

Jumpsuit – Next

Bag – Stella McCartney

Coat – Marks & Spencer

Shoes – New Look

Necklace – Kate Spade

This was truly one of the most magical days of the year and am so happy to have been able to celebrate such happiness and love in my family, welcome Tom x

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Introduction to Neal’s Yard

Neal’s Yard Remedies

I’ve been focusing in on creating a skincare routine and have compiled a few pieces. My last post about L’Occitane was the first step and the second is Neal’s.

I was on my way to Frome when mum said there was a Neal’s Yard factory store on our route so we stopped into the store and bought a whole bunch of stuff.

We tried the infused tea and lemonade then perused the shelves for goodies.

Mum bought a bag full of hand cream and I of course got face stuff because I want to stay looking 23 for as long as possible. I picked the Orange Flower Facial oil, a Be Lovely Bath and Shower Gel, an Orange Flower Facial Wash  and a few other bits.

I really love the vibe of Neal’s, the lady behind the counter really talked with passion about the products and answered my questions and I learnt a little too. Apparently Neal’s use blue bottles to preserve to products the blue deflects the sun so Neal’s don’t have to add preservatives into their products.

I’m really sold on Neal’s and can’t wait to have glowing skin.

Have you guys tried Neal’s? What’s your favourite product? what should I get next?

I wore

Pink Shirt – Zara

Jeans – Primark

Denim Jacket – Baum und Pferdgarten

Shoes – Next

Bag – Vintage

 

Amelia xxx

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