A post in the parts
Compare – ‘to examine two objects in order to note similarities and differences’.
Is it natural to compare myself to others constantly? Noticing where my friends succeed in comparison to my failers? The continuous notion of feeling a lesser version of myself based on an outward portrayal of others. This is easily manifested in social media. Watching people I digitally admire galavant around the world through my phone screen. Does this enrich my life or more importantly my personal well being?
In so few a words. Yes.
Knowing where I sit in the world is comforting, comparing yourself, if done right, motivates me to achieve and succeed. Does it matter that my friends have finished university at 22 and I still have a year left at 24? No. It matters that I am at university doing what I love and we are in the same position of working out where we stand in the world together.
Comparing yourself to be like someone else is a waste of time. You will never be that person. So don’t waste your time trying to be. Be inspired or motivated by your comparisons, but be who you are. Find your interests and use them to your advantage. In primary school, I used to get bullied for wearing clothes I loved. I questioned my choices and actions and tried to fit in with the ‘popular people’. Even after these modifications, I was still me but in the wrong body. I wanted to wear my favourite clothes but wore what everyone else had, and was still picked this time for trying to fit in. I learnt from my mum that if you can’t join them beat them. I wore exactly what I wanted and stopped comparing myself to people who aren’t my peers.
Compromise – ‘acceptance of standards that are lower than is desirable’.
I hold myself to the highest standards, on purpose because I know my capabilities. I’ve always known what I’ve wanted and stuck up for it. I don’t compromise, my personal feelings or my outward emotions. If I’m pissed off, you’ll know.
that saying ‘If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all’. Is total rubbish, if you’ve been hurt, pissed off, or mad as hell, let it be known. Shout from the roof tops. My voice won’t be quashed by being polite, I won’t compromise for the benefit of not hurting you when you have hurt me.
I won’t compromise.
‘the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something’.
Having confidence within in yourself comes with time, I’ve learnt that the hard way. I was never confident in my capabilities, knowledge, personality, any part of my life. I was a shell of who I was meant to be. That awkward teen stage hit me hard. I retreated within myself. I felt like everyone was so together and charming, yet I couldn’t string a sentence together in front of a stranger. Then I got my first job, working in a clothing shop and earning some pocket money gave me freedom and confidence to do things I’d have never done before. The unattainable was now within grasp. A Lulu Guinness bag I had wanted for months was my first purchase when I got paid, it cleared my account but it didn’t matter. I had this bag and nothing could stop me. The bag was symbolic of my arrival into myself. My confidence came from a purchase that meant something to me and it just went from there. I tried new things and sucked at most of them, then tried more, made friends had adventures. not I can crack jokes and be charming in front of strangers and not care.
I am confident.
Dress- Miss Suki | Jeans – Primark | Shoes – Dr Martens | Bag – Stella McCartney | Earrings – ( old sorry) sunglasses – Forever21 (old)
Finding vintage dresses to wear this summer has become my favourite past time. I scooped this one a few weeks ago along with two others that I can’t wait to show you. The capped sleeves, the original cream buttons, it’s a vintage dream. I was super tempted to cut the hem shorter, but love the more conservative look at the length it is.
Paired with burnt orange/red slippers which are all over the shops at the moment. Mine are Primark and were such a bargain, I’ve my eye one a pair from Public Desire, that are way more extra then these. A wicker basket that is fit for a summer in Italy or at your local beach. Of course you need a pair of purple glasses. They defuse the the orange tone in the sun light, which means you can actually walk around without squinting, also no need to take them off when stopping into stores to buy water and ice-cream.
The ultimate vintage summer look.
shoes – Primark
bag – similar
glasses – Romwe
After next week, there will be alot of new posts coming your way. How to shop vintage and where. Summer looks, stay-cations, vacations, university and a “mature student”, Vinted Everything.
Just arrived back from Paris and couldn’t wait to show you all the photos I took. This is the look I wore to Premiere Vision on Thursday. I spilt breakfast down my shirt 10 mins after putting it on, what are you going to do?
I wanted to dress smart because it was my professional day going to Premiere Vision so I picked a monochrome look and this Top Shop coat for the pop of colour and excitement. Hair was in Plaits because Paris was so windy and it was much easier to just tie it up. Tie the plaits together for a twist on the classic look.
There will be more Paris posts coming your way soon, so hold on for them. I can’t wait to go back. Hayden and I are thinking in Summer and go to Versailles too.
Shirt – Kate Spade
Jeans – Primark
Coat – Topshop
Trainers – Converse*
Back – Calvin Klein
Necklace – Gift from Hayden
Photos taken by Hayden outside of L’Escargot
I am in of summer.
I feel like it’s been an eternal winter and can’t wait to be able to get my legs our even more. There was just the hint of sun recently and I got so excited, I dug out this denim skirt and felt very summery. I think everyone around me thought I was crazy because they were in gloves and scarves.
Anyone else in love with the hairband trend for SS/18? I’m so glad I kept this one from years ago to work into looks for this season. Versace, D&G and Elisabetta Franchi all showed gold head wear in their SS/18 shows.
Skirt – M&S | Jumper – Next | Boots – similar here, here | Bag – Stella McCartney | Hair Band Similar here, here
It’s almost spring and I’m so excited to wear cotton dresses and feel the sun on my skin. Fingers crossed for a few trips away in the sun. The sun finally came out for a few moments and I couldn’t wast the opportunity of wearing the best buy of 2018 so far. Broome Street peplum shirt from Kate Spade is heaven. I’ve been on the hunt for months for a crisp white shirt and found exactly what I was looking for at Bicester Village. If you’ve not been, really do go. The is a plethora of shops for you to take advantage of.
Jeans – Primark | Jacket – Vintage | Shoes – Next | Bag – Stella McCartney | Shirt – Broome Street Kate Spade | Earrings – Lovisa | Necklace – Lovisa | Sunglasses – Primark
The Curly Haired Girl
Aren’t smart trousers everywhere? I finally found a pair that are cropped and a little different to the pattern you see everywhere. I wore them all day and they were the comfiest pair of smart trousers that I think I’ve ever worn. Added a V neck jumper and some leopard print court shoes. SS/18 is all about interesting heels and the heel in these shoes are so chunky but with a tapered edge.
And yeah you can see my tummy in this jumper, so what. I felt great in this outfit and don’t really care that you can see my tummy. I think I look cute and sassy and that’s all that matters. Move on.
Shoes – Next | Jumper – Vera Moda | Trousers – Next | Bag – Stella McCartney | Earrings – Stella & Dot Rebecca Minkoff
Shout out to my mum for the photos.
The oversized jacket you stole from your boyfriends wardrobe in the 80’s. Total 80’s power dressing for the back to school season. Styled with some honeydew culottes for a colour pop.
oversized jacket – LOTD
Culottes – LOTD
black top – Topshop
Shoes – New Look
Earrings – Primark
Thank you LOTD, who kindly let me pick from their collection of beautiful pieces, items to wear and style here, for you guys. Ofcourse as alway all opinions are my own. Do go check LOTD out.